Happy Valentine’s Day!

If you are a mom, especially an autism mom, your love life might be a little… neglected. As in, moths are flying off of it. But if you have essential oils, you are in luck – I mean… HE is! What can’t essential oils do? So if you’ve been a typical mom – taking care of everyone else before yourself, take some of these “essential oils for love” from your arsenal and use them for your lov-ah. And if you don’t have any, you can learn more about them here.

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If this is what your “date night” looks like, you might need some help.
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Essential Oils for Love


We’re all short on time, so we’re just going to start out with the big guns here. Sandalwood essential oil is considered to be the most powerful aphrodisiac in aromatherapy. Its scent is said to increase libido and enhance sexual response. So, you don’t really need to read any more than to this point…

Ylang Ylang

Ylang Ylang is another favorite sensual essential oil. It is not only a great aphrodisiac, but it is also believed to enhance euphoria and make experiences deeper and more profound. In Indonesia, newly wedded couples beds are strewn with ylang ylang flowers. It is thought that this will bring a marriage full of love, happiness, and – well, you know…


Another potent aphrodisiac, Jasmine essential oil smells ah-mazing! It will also help to calm nerves and relieve stress. Be careful though. Jasmine is considered to enhance fertility. So, if that’s what you are hoping for – yay, there’s an oil! But if my husband reads this I can guarantee all Jasmine in the house will literally be dumped down the drain…


Like Jasmine, Geranium essential oil has a sweet floral scent that will balance hormones (i.e., calm our “crazy-girl” freakiness) and enhance feelings of love and acceptance.


The rose is a historical symbol and love and devotion, so it is difficult to think of a more romantic oil. Use Rose essential oil to open the heart and focus on desire. Rose is also a great oil if there are any … ahem, bedroom “issues.” And if everything is a-okay in that department, you still can’t go wrong with Rose. Just be aware that if you are using a Rose oil and is pure and of good quality, it is going to be very (like VERY) expensive. But, if you already have some there is no better day than V-Day to use it!

Clary Sage

Clary Sage essential oil reduces tension and brings on a sense of emotional calm and (sometimes intense) euphoria. Sounds awesome, right? But, take note if you are planning on wine or other alcohol on Valentine’s Day (I know I am!). Clary Sage is a pretty powerful oil. When used with alcohol, it can bring on some cray-cray hallucinations. So, if that isn’t your thing…


Patchouli essential oil is a great mood lifter and awesome for relaxation. It is considered THE scent for attraction. It stimulates the sex glands, increases the libido, and enhances sexual response. Just remember that Patchouli smells like.. well, patchouli.

How To Use Them

Now you have your oils, but what the heck do you do with them? There are lots of ways to use essential oils on Valentine’s Day!


candles and towels for massageThese essential oils are great for a romantic couples massage. Just mix a few drops with a carrier oil (like almond oil or fractionated coconut oil), dim the lights, and put on some Barry White. Of course, it is entirely possible that a massage is not a practical option for you. Perhaps you have kids who won’t stay in bed. Or maybe you don’t want to get oil all over the sheets. Or maybe your man starts massaging one shoulder half-heartedly while watching TV over your head and you fall asleep – whatever. There are other options…


Perfume bottlesIt’s easy to make your own sexy perfume using the oils above. You just need a perfume bottle (ideally dark colored glass, with a spray, dropper or roller ball top), 20-30 drops of your favorite oil or combination of oils, and some alcohol. If you want an easy recipe, mix the following: 10 drops Rose essential oil, 8 drops Ylang Ylang essential oil, 5 drops Sandalwood essential oil, and 1.5 oz. Vodka or other alcohol. Put a few drops on your wrists, neck and behind your ears.


Diffusing Essential OilsThis is my favorite, easiest way to use essential oil. Just put a few drops of your favorite oil (or use the blend above) in your essential oil diffuser. The scent will bring a calm, romantic vibe to the whole room – and hopefully to your evening.

Wishing you all a happy and romantic Valentine’s Day! XO

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